Where are you located on the stress scale when you’re dealing with change? Closely examine your excessive worrying state when you’re facing professional development goals or personal ones.
Do you know the feeling when you want something so badly that you start to get stressed out about it? Through the years of my professional experience, I have noticed that when people are setting goals and dealing with change, no matter what kind, they also bring negative feelings to this equation. The most common negative emotions are excessive worrying, stress, fear and doubt.
Where are you on the stress scale?
Personal goal-setting or even professional development goals open the gates for future changes, and we don’t know how to deal with those changes.
In this article, I want to show you the common mistake people make when they deal with change and what you can do in order to avoid it and be on the right track to success.
But first, let’s see why you should put aside emotions like worry and stress when setting goals or dealing with change:
When stress, doubt or fear are involved, they create a contrast vibration to your target. They set an obstacle between you and your destination. Their presence is not in alinementwith what you have in mind; therefore, your chances of manifesting your goals decrease tremendously. What is your location on the stress scale?
Negative feelings you carry are the number 1 hurdle between you and your goals. It’s like driving your car with a hand break – something is always stopping you from making progress.
Have you ever been lying in bed extremely exhausted and just couldn’t fall asleep? After a while, you probably thought: “It has been so long – why haven’t I fallen asleep?” This excessive worrying didn’t help you much to fall asleep more quickly, did it? If stress stopped you from falling asleep, imagine what it is doing to bigger, life-changing goals.
When people set new goals and start to follow the new path they choose, their defense system perceives it as a huge threat because they are stepping out of their comfort zone.
When you decide to take responsibility for your life and make a change, it is imperative to let go of excessive worrying and release the stress that is usually attached to the process of change.
What to do when stressed out
First off, you should be thankful for your defense system; it is definitely doing the job! When you acknowledge that your defense system functions just fine, you can recognize the fear and worry and accept that it is there. Just by being aware of your automatic reaction, you can release the worrying greatly.
You should also be thankful that bad feelings are arising because it means you are doing something good! You are making a change! If you would continue your life routine regularly without starting a change process or setting goals, you wouldn’t deal with those feelings of doubt and fear.
You can say to yourself: “well, thank you for helping me, defense system – I very much appreciate it for trying to guard me. However, I know exactly where I am going and I want to go for it right now with full power.”
By realizing that the emotions of excessive worrying are FAKE and have been created only to KEEP YOU WHERE YOU ARE IN ORDER TO PROTECT YOU FROM DANGER, you can now let it go and see that those emotions are not real.
So instead of being sucked into your automatic reaction, you can now control it and navigate it to where you choose and want!
After you acknowledge the presence of the fear, stress and worry, and give it attention and recognition, your next step should be replacing the negative emotions with empowering ones.
Now you can make a shift and use the emotional system to work for you. If negative emotions can distract you from your goal, empowering feelings can make you get closer and closer to it big time!
You can take the fear (by being aware of it) and turn it into excitement, anticipation and enthusiasm. You can experience senses of passion, eagerness and thirst for success! Imagine how your positive feelings can serve you on your way to your goal!
I invite you to be aware of your bad feelings when you’re dealing with change, acknowledging them, and as a result, decrease their presence.