It’s time to admit it: you are your own worst enemy. Nobody gets in your way, more than you do. Every time you achieve a goal or realize that you are experiencing happiness, you do something to sabotage it. And this is a pattern that repeats itself over and over again!
It’s time to stop self-sabotaging!
Maybe you’ve been trying to lose weight for over a year now, but every time people compliment you on the few pounds you’ve shed, you jump back on the sugar train, thinking, “Just once wouldn’t hurt”.
Or you start imagining your exercise as “too much stress”. Before long, the pounds start adding up again.
Maybe you finally found the love of your life. They were everything you could have hoped for in a partner… Your friends thought you two make the perfect couple, and you believed so too… but then doubts started to creep in for no reason.
You started to think: “Surely, there must be a catch”, “I don’t like her new haircut”, “All men cheat”, “All women are manipulative”. You then started acting weird and dramatic, pushing your partner away and destroying a perfectly healthy relationship.
The Pattern of Self Sabotage
I get it, every once in a while, everybody throws a spanner into their own works. I’ve been there, and it hurts.
But when it happens over and over again, sort of systematic force that turns on whenever something good happens to you and is targeted at destroying your progress… then something is amiss. It is a distinct pattern of self-sabotage tendency.
You might not even realize when you are acting like your own worst enemy, but the truth remains that unless you stop thrusting a spoke into your own wheel until you break the pattern of self-sabotage, you will continue to destroy whatever good happens to you.
Unless you put an end to your self-sabotage, you will continue to dismantle every good thing that comes your way, leaving yourself miserable and unfulfilled, just to rebuild everything from scratch.
So Why Do I Self-Sabotage? Oops, I Did It Again!
What is the reason you ruined the best relationship you ever had, one that made you so happy?
You may be wondering why…
Did you push away the person you loved so much to the extent where they will never want to get back together with you?
Why did you ruin your chances of getting that position at work after you had worked so hard for it?
Why this trend of self-sabotage in so many people?
For example, research testifies that 90% of lottery winners lose every single penny within 5 years of winning the jackpot—why is that?
Other everyday examples of self-sabotage you may be familiar with include:
- Allowing the dishes to pile up all week, even though you know how difficult it is to wash the pile and you promised yourself it would never get to that point.
- Taking unreasonable and dangerous risks (physically, emotionally, and financially).
- Consuming pills that damage your body, ruin your immune system, and upset your overall gut-brain balance.
- Talking behind a coworkers’ back, even though you promised yourself you wouldn’t engage in gossip again.
- Making a lot of money in business, becoming financially secure, only to blow through the cash until there is nothing left
And so on.
Why do you work hard towards your goals only to trip yourself once you achieve success?
Here are the main reasons:
Fear of Failure
Maybe it was your teacher or your parents who made you believe that failure was a bad thing. In your childhood, you were probably made to believe that if you failed—at anything—you were a loser; worthless.
The reactions you received for making mistakes were traumatic. So when you finally hold success or happiness in your hand, like a loving relationship, or a high-paying job, you cannot bear the thought of failing at maintaining that success or happiness.
So what do you do to get rid of the stress of that anxiety? You self-sabotage and get rid of the source which is the very goal you worked so hard to get.
Fear of Success
Greatness can be daunting when you think about it. What terrifying heights will you reach if you unleash the potential within you? Do you contemplate and shudder at the thought of realizing your full potential?
With success comes responsibilities and side effects: more commitment, more criticism, more exposure, more being judged by others, more jealousy from others, less free time, losing old friends; and so on.
Many people unknowingly fear these highly possible repercussions and shun success.
Most often, the tendency to self-sabotage is rooted in a mindset that is much deeper than the previous two mentioned.
When people destroy wonderful things that they spent much effort in acquiring, often it’s an indicator that they secretly believe they are not deserving of those things.
Feelings of being undeserving can be expressed in thoughts like, “I am inadequate for that job”, “I suck at this”, “It’s too good to be true”, “who can ever love me”.
If you feel underserving you will find yourself turning down opportunities, feeling uncomfortable when others compliment you, and you will tend to downplay your achievements with words like “Oh, anyone could have done this”.
Because this whole thinking pattern lies in the subconscious, those who feel undeserving will find seemingly good excuses to reduce the dissonance between their self-sabotage and their goals (finding the perfect job/relationship, quitting smoking, losing weight).
They give excuses like:
- “It wasn’t for me anyway”
- “I’m better off without him/her”
- “I’m better off without this job anyway”
- “The routine bores me”
- “I love smoking, it relaxes me”
- “I needed to make a change anyway”
- “You only live once and you have to take risks”
The unconscious mind doesn’t only arm people with excuses for self-sabotage, it actually convinces them that self-sabotage is in their best interest.
Your Brain Is Designed to Protect You from Danger
Your brain is hardwired to protect you from any form of danger, whether real or imagined.
So you self-sabotage if you believe:
- Failure is a danger—it makes you feel like a loser.
- Success is a danger because it will lead to more responsibilities you believe you cannot handle.
- Feeling deserving is dangerous since you grew up believing you don’t deserve things and your wishes and needs are not important.
One or more of these reasons could be the reason why you self-sabotage; but now that you know, can’t you just switch it off?
Why You Can’t Just Stop Self-Sabotaging and Enjoy the Things You Attract
You can’t just stop the pattern of self-sabotage because you want to… and that is because you are unaware of the hidden paradigms involved in the whole process.
Sure, you know the consequences of your behavior—ruining your success and losing the beautiful things in your life—but you don’t know WHY you’re doing it.
Forcing yourself to do the right thing when you’re in the moment, as a means to avoid self-sabotage may work for a little while, but that won’t work in the long term.
In the long run, what determines your results are your paradigms: the inner definitions that were created in your subconscious mind many years ago.
According to studies conducted by world-famous researchers, the subconscious mind rules up to 97 percent of your results. Until you REPROGRAM your beliefs, your reality will run on the same course year after year.
And your biggest nightmare might come true: that things will forever remain the same… or even get worse.
This will cause huge frustration that will lead to more failures, more self-sabotaging routines, more disappointments, more painful experiences and proofs that will reinforce your negative patterns.
Check In With Yourself
Once you zero in on the cause of the obstruction, you can begin to deal with the problem. Once you are aware of why you behave the way you do, you can start questioning your motives and actions with questions like –
- “Should I really be spending all my money on shopping instead of investing it?”
- “Is it really too much stress to wake up 15 minutes earlier to meditate, especially with the benefits attached?”
- “Do I really need to eat all this greasy food now that I’ve made so much progress with my diet and exercise?”
- “My partner has never given me cause to trust them any less, so why am I acting difficult?”
- “Am I truly not ready for a promotion after all the good work I’ve been doing at the office?”
The Secret to Rewire Your Unconscious Thoughts to Stop Self-Sabotaging
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These hidden commands bypass the cynical resistance of your consciousness and go straight to the source – the unconscious.
You can look at this method like a super powerful channel to transfer the data you’d like your mind to absorb. And if you use this channel daily… the shift can be phenomenal!
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Imagine the profound change they can create in a short time. Now imagine that you listen to “stop self-sabotaging” messages every night you go to sleep for eight hours. Every time you go to sleep, you will go through a personal development seminar! It doesn’t get any easier.
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Your Life without the Self-Sabotage Tendency
Imagine a life where you were not your own worst enemy, a life where you did not always self-sabotage your own success. Imagine how it would feel to live without a hidden handbrake preventing you from speeding up.
How would it feel to nurture and enjoy the relationship of your dreams, rather than constantly fearing that it will end? How far would you go in your career if you did not keep pulling yourself down?
Would it feel good to consistently begin the day with meditation and self-care practices, consistently listening to the subliminal programs?
Imagine being on top of things; imagine overcoming the enemy within…
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