Changing your life is not easy. It requires prowess, honesty and acknowledgment of the fact that something is stuck here. Life change is a marathon, not a short run, thus patience is an essential ingredient in this recipe. Don’t be tempted to give up right away when things don’t go smoothly.
So many people are locked behind bars. I am not talking about the ones who committed crimes and now pay their debt to society, but the ones who are prisoners of themselves. Prisoners of their fear.
How many times have you seen other couples from an outside observation and said: “It will not happen to me. I will never allow myself to be in that place.”
But now… now you find yourself acting like those couples whose relationships are established by a set of orders instead of loving words: “bring this; go there; pick up the kids from kindergarten.” There is no more “I love you” before sleep… no more romantic text messages and staring at each other’s eyes for hours, like you used to, like you were the only ones in this world. The love that once started as a bursting volcano is slowly turning into hard, lifeless lava
This gradual change is not yours only, but is common to many stray souls out there. It belongs to lots of people who have lost hope. It belongs to people who don’t believe it is possible to fix anything or to step out of this system.
Not believing in change is not limited to relationships. It is valid to any area of life in which you long to blossom, to be free, yet is held hostage by restrictive beliefs that don’t allow you to grow.
The alarm is buzzing again. It is time to get out of your warm bed and step into the cold morning. You dress reluctantly and are thinking of calling in sick. “They won’t believe me,” you mumble and keep slowly organizing yourself in preparation of another routine work day that has never satisfied you.
You are stuck in traffic. Even the biggest hits on the radio do not succeed in lifting your mood. The closer to your work place you get, the more your heart is shutting down. Freedom seems like a daydream that is preserved for people who were born rich.
You are at work, smiling – not genuinely – to coworkers who feel exactly the same as you. Time is passing by slowly. A minute seems like an hour and an hour feels like forever. You’re getting lost within the sea of thoughts flowing in your mind and you wake up from your daydream to discover that only five minutes have gone by.
You are depressed throughout most of the day. The only time you are waking up to life is at 5 p.m. But then, the euphoric feeling fades quickly because you remember you’re going home to a relationship, the existence of which is merely technical.
You feel like you are about to explode. “Something must change,” the rebel in you is screaming. Suddenly it feels good, those thoughts of a different lifestyle. You find yourself smiling. But then you abolish it: “Not a chance,” you say to yourself.
Do you remember when you were a child with big hopes and powerful dreams? Where have they disappeared to? Where did you disappear to? When you were a child, there was no such thing as “impossible”. Everything was wide open in front of you – all doors were open, all options laid out for you on a gold tray.
Today you are a convict. Not due to society’s rules or your parents’. You are a prisoner by choice.
If your life is going down an undesired path that has no relation to your past dreaming, I want you to know it is a shame.
It is a shame for your life which is being wasted because of anxieties of “what will”. It is too bad you are wasting feelings of joy which you could have experienced every day.
One day you will regret the things you haven’t done, but by then, it will be too late. One day you will not be here anymore, but if you think about it deeply, you’ll realize that… you were never actually here.
I believe in life after death. I believe that energy never decays and reaches in different forms to the infinite existence. But am I sure our lives will continue in a shape of another physical human being? Not at all.
Therefore, as long as you exist in your physical form, be grateful for that time! Make it worth living.
I once heard a quote of a religious man who said: “To live as you wish is to respect the creation, is to respect God.”
It is time to walk down the path you crave. Maybe a few people will not be thrilled about it, but you’ll be surprised to know how quickly people adjust to new situations. They finally learn to accept and contain something when they figure out they have no choice.
Check in with yourself as to what you are missing and how you can fix it.
Check in with yourself about what happened along the way that went wrong, and what you can do starting from right now to change it.
The change doesn’t need to be drastic and instant. Leave the deadline to the journalists. Take your time slowly, breathe it in, and use it for your own good, without pressure, without stress. You are not in a hurry. When you are clean from stress, things manifest more quickly.
Remember… it is never too late.