Whether you are aware of them or not, the life you live is a product of beliefs which lie deep within your subconscious mind. Some of them are limiting beliefs.
If you operate according to positive beliefs, you end up with the sort of life that other people dream about. Where there seem to be no boundaries to what you can accomplish and you experience an abundance of love and prosperity.
If you operate according to negative or limiting beliefs you get the opposite and struggle to accomplish what you desire.
Limiting beliefs are usually the reason why two people from similar backgrounds with similar abilities and similar opportunities may end up with totally different levels of success.
While one may rise to the very top, manifesting his desires with ease, the other may struggle to accomplish anything, all while despising the other as being “lucky”.
What Are Limiting Beliefs
Unhealthy beliefs are paradigms or ideas that are negative in nature; they set a limit on your outlook on life and put a cap on the amount of happiness you feel you deserve.
They are statements you tell yourself to justify every counter-productive action you take that takes you away from your goals. The ineffective beliefs cause you to shoot yourself in the leg over and over again when you try to manifest your desire.
They are the stories you tell yourself as an excuse for why your circumstances cannot change.
Limiting beliefs exhibit themselves in many different ways.
Here Are Some Everyday Examples of Toxic Beliefs:
- Oh she’s out of my league – she can’t possibly be attracted to a guy like me.
- Only greedy and selfish people end up wealthy – otherwise I would be wealth as well.
- Money is the root of all evil.
- True love does not exist – you have to settle for whoever comes along or end up lonely.
- I’m not good enough like my co-workers who went to Ivy League schools – I better keep my mouth shut at work.
- I will only feel worthy when I start earning six figures. Only then can I be happy.
- Life is hard and you have to be lucky to succeed in it – keep your head down and don’t expect too much so you don’t get disappointed.
- What I desire is not important; I have to please others at all costs so that they like me. I need to prove myself worthy of appreciation.
- I am not deserving of happiness and success.
- I am not talented enough or smart enough or valuable enough.
- There is not enough wealth in the world for everybody so I better hold on it while I can.
- I am not worthy of love. Why would anyone ever love me?
- Success does not come easy – I need to work very hard to reap any results or success.
And so on and so forth.
These negative paradigms express themselves in an unlimited number of ways, designed to keep you away from what you consciously desire.
How Limiting Beliefs Affect Your Behaviour
Here are two examples from daily life that illustrate how negative patterns make you act in certain ways.
You run across someone you really like one day at a party. They are so good-looking they blow you away. This is your dream partner standing right in front, and they seem to have noticed you and are smiling your way.
You want to go over talk, and maybe ask for their number later. However, for some reason you stay rooted to the spot; you can’t move.
Your brain starts having all sorts of crazy ideas like: They can’t possibly like me, who am I kidding? I’ll just make a fool of myself by going over to talk.
Suddenly, your shoes become the most interesting thing in the room for you and you keep your head down for the rest of the evening.
During work sessions at the office, you never give your opinion, even when your supervisor asks for it. You believe you are no one important to be heard, because you suffer from poorly developed sense of self, and what you think does not matter.
You may not even agree with the resolutions being taken by those in the meeting, but you ask yourself: What does it matter? My ideas are not relevant and everyone will think I’m stupid.
Disempowering beliefs are located deep in your subconscious so you are more than likely to believe them and take them for truth. They are like that one friend you have that makes it unnecessary to have enemies.
How to Overcome Limiting Beliefs and Replace them With Positive Beliefs
So long as you have these limiting beliefs running your life, every attempt to manifest your goals is going to be an uphill task or outright impossible.
Because they are stored in the subconscious, they are able to override any of your conscious desires which do not agree with them.
If you have negative beliefs about money, you are going to struggle with amassing wealth and keeping it.
If you possess limiting perceptions about yourself, you are going to struggle at asserting yourself in social situations and your interactions with others.
Or if you hold on to limiting beliefs about love or work, or anything else, you are going to struggle attracting any desires in these areas which are not aligned with the negative models that exist in your subconscious.
It therefore stands to reason that a key part of achieving your desires and making your dreams come to true lies with dissolving these erroneous paradigms that lie deep within our psyche and replace them with effective beliefs that align with the goals we want to accomplish.
5 Ways to Beat Disempowering Beliefs
1. Question Them
Don’t just believe the stories or excuses you tell yourself the moment you set your mind to something. Challenge them and ask, “Is this really true”?
Byron Katie talks extensively about this in her book, “Loving What Is”. Negative thoughts are very easy to believe because over time you have come to see them as ‘truth’. But you don’t have to believe them by default; challenge them and expose them for the lies they are.
2. Offer Convincing Alternatives
When you challenge a negative thought, you want to adopt convincing alternatives instead. If an alternative seems too outlandish and inspires resistance, choose another positive affirmation to counter the limiting belief.
For example, if a situation triggers you to start feeling insecure or not good enough, you can counter it with affirmations like:
I am good enough just as I am and just because I exist. There is nothing wrong with me and nothing which I have to prove. I alone determine my self-worth and this negative emotion I feel is merely a lie I refuse to believe.
If you feel yourself succumbing to the belief that there is not enough money in the world for everybody, you can immediately counter it with:
If rich people can receive millions in income from multiple income streams then there must be an endless abundance which can also flow back to me. Just like the air we breathe comes and goes.
When you realize yourself succumbing to the pressure from ideas that say you are not worthy of love, you can reassure yourself with a counter like: I am worthy of love. I am amazing just the way I am and have so much to give and offer.
When among others and you feel you are compelled to try to please everybody and prove yourself worthy, you can reply with:
I don’t have to prove myself to anybody in order to “win” their love. I can be myself and that is okay.
Just like animals in the zoo are confident and don’t stop being themselves to please on looking tourists, I too believe I am good enough and need not bend over backwards to present an image. The right people will see my worth, and I can just be myself and relax.
Should you find yourself frustrated and overwhelmed by the idea that life is hard you can replace that idea with a belief like:
There is abundance flowing through the universe and it flows effortlessly. As long as I enjoy what I do, and improve my skills in it, abundance will come easy to me.
You can come up with your own affirmative ideas so long as you believe them and make sense to you.
3. Recognize What Your Triggers Are
To uncover what you limiting beliefs are, you have to uncover what triggers them into action. There are two steps to this process:
Step 1: These are situations that cause negative emotions (fear, resentment, anger, shame, guilt, etc.) to bubble up to the surface.
Rather than shun these feelings because they make you feel uncomfortable, embrace them and see them for what they are – pointers to deeper knots buried within your subconscious.
Don’t suppress your pain; allow yourself to feel the emotions for a little while. After that, ask yourself which limiting belief stands at the bottom of the painful emotions you are feeling.
Why you feel angry, unworthy, insecure, small inside, undeserving? Are you afraid you will end up alone? Are you acting out because you feel insecure?
Do you feel compelled to please others no matter what because you feel you are not good enough or you feel you don’t belong?
Find that trigger behind the unpleasant emotion you are feeling.
Step 2: When you become accustomed to probing your feelings and the triggers behind them, start repeating the convincing alternatives to the negative emotions which the triggers inspire.
Don’t be shy about this; repeat them over and over again. This is the first step to exiting the negative zone.
4. Keep Repeating the Alternatives Beliefs Whenever You are Triggered Whether You Are Alone or With Others
Whether you are out and about with friends or just surfing the internet on your own at home, endeavor to counter your limiting beliefs with empowering statements whenever you feel you’re triggered.
As soon as you start feeling your negative chatter taking hold, immediately replace it with the healthy alternative. By consistently doing the healthier alternatives will eventually remove your limiting beliefs.
5. Subliminal Messages
Listening to subliminal messages specifically created to impact and alter your subconscious paradigms can also help you erase your limiting beliefs and install healthy patterns instead.
This method combines the previous methods into one, so that you can experience the change you need by simply hit ‘play’ during your downtime to listen to a set of recorded empowering suggestions.
I created many subliminal recordings targeting all the most common unhealthy beliefs that are likely keeping you from fulfilling your goals.
You can fast track your way to your dreams by listening to these subliminal recordings which you can access here.
Once you eliminate those limiting beliefs and switch them with better ones you will enter a realm of miracles and abundance where your dreams and desires will flow into your life with ease.
And you can do this with the steps outlined, and even more easily with the programs I created. Don’t hold back. Take action now and see your life change for the better.
Your present struggles are merely symptoms of a much deeper problem, and the key to moving past them towards your goals lies in eliminating negative thought patterns and paradigms that have been holding you back.