One of my clients told me:
Life is so confusing! I don’t know what to choose and what to do. Everything seems so complicated, and I don’t know what road to take. I wish there were some divine force, a guardian angel that watches over me and shows me the right way.
Does That Sound Familiar?
Well, to tell the truth, many times I myself just wanted to hide under the covers, put my head on the pillow, go to sleep, and wake up when I got older and wiser.
I was so afraid to deal with life! I felt lost. I didn’t know what options to focus on. I reached many crossroads at which each possible direction seemed tempting but scary at the same time.
Fortunately, I haven’t been in that place for years now. I got out of this quagmire of uncertainty, ongoing fear, and anxiety over every little thing. Now I’m happy to find myself in a place of clarity and peace.
How Did I Do That?
I strengthened my self-belief muscles. It’s a process that takes time, and I’m still working on it.
In fact, I will probably be working on it for the rest of my life. Why? Because personal growth is an integral part of my being and the way I choose to live. I choose to invest in my evolution, instead of letting myself stay stuck in my comfort zone.
Whenever you ask for a guardian angel to come and save you, it’s most likely because you feel like you’re in a very unsafe place. You’re willing to trust an entity you don’t even know, just so it can take over the decision- making responsibility that really belongs to you.
And every time you beg for help (that almost never comes in the way you expect it), you broadcast over and over the message “I don’t trust myself. I don’t have the capability, the strength, and the courage to run my life the way I choose. I don’t know what’s best for me.”
So, friends, work on those “I believe in myself” muscles. How?
Start With Baby Steps:
1. Remind yourself that you’re not competing against anyone, and you have no deadline.
2. Wake up a half hour earlier each morning, and read an article about self-confidence, motivation, or self-trust.
Before you go to bed at night, write down what you love about yourself and what good qualities you possess. For example: “I’m a loving husband. I will be there for my wife whenever she needs me.”
3. Take a few minutes break at work and practice breathing techniques for relaxation.
4. Practice visualization and feel what it’s like to be super-confident.
5. Start to believe in yourself by putting into practice the small things. For example, prepare a recipe you’ve never tried. Call your landlord to ask for a necessary repair, instead of hiding behind a text message. Negotiate the price of a car you want to buy instead of accepting the salesman’s first quote.
Here’s a subliminal meditation that can help you to increase your belief in yourself.
Remember: when you believe in yourself, you will not need guidance to help you escape from a place of fear and helplessness.
You will always know you’ve got yourself to count on, and that, my friend, is all you need to go through the journey of life.