How to Let Go of Control and Become More Flexible In Life
Do you ever wake up with the feeling that everything depends on you and only you? It is easy to wake up thinking that if you let go of control then things would not go your way.
I used to think that way.
I thought I had good reasons for being that way, too.
Life has a way of creeping up behind you and getting in the way of your well-laid plans.
Things rarely go EXACTLY as you expect they would, so I would wake up every day determined to micromanage every second.
I was all about making to-do lists and calling in advance to make doubly sure. Flexibility was out of the question, otherwise – how would I be able to predict what’s about to happen?
If things didn’t go my way? Oh boy… I would flip!
My cheeks would get flushed when tasks that appeared simple in theory ended up taking twice the time and twice the effort in practice.
That didn’t stop life from being its merry self, though.
The fact that I had my day planned to a T and couldn’t spare a second didn’t stop the weather from being as unpredictable. Flights still got canceled, shredding my precious plans to pieces.
You see, That’s The Funny Thing About Life—It Happens
It follows its own script and will continue to do so whether you approve or not.
Today, I look back at how I lived my life back then and I have no doubts as to why I struggled to manifest my desires.
Living with an addiction to control, there was zero hope of me ever getting my vibrations up to the point where I could attract my desires.
Living with a stiff mindset that refused to let go, meant that I was constantly frustrated and angry whenever something failed to go according to plan.
I wanted life on my terms or else.
When You Cannot Let Go of Control, You Are Easily Influenced By Your Situations
I constantly felt like I was trapped on a treadmill, wanting to get ahead but unable to do so.
Because I was unable to surrender, and just flow, my feelings were always attached to the situation I was in.
Instead of learning how to let go and become more flexible and manage my vibrations despite the situation, I allowed the circumstances to determine how I felt.
In other words – life’s situations controlled me. I always lived in the illusion that I was on top of things, that I gained full control by planning every single detail.
But as a matter of fact – my emotional reactions were so ungrounded, the complete opposite of being in control.
The More You Try to Control Everything, the More You Create Resistance
You might be wondering how doing your best could be working against you and keeping you from the life you desire.
After all, shouldn’t you do all in your power to achieve the goals you want?
True, you should.
Do all you can that is in your power to do. And then allow the Universe to do its part.
Your inability to let go does nothing more than interfere with the effortless flow and abundance that exists in the magnetic field of the earth.
By fighting against the unpredictable nature of life, you make it hard for the divine to lead you where you desire to go.
Doing all you can, and then allowing the Universe to do its job is like floating downriver. It requires little effort and no strain on your part.
On the other hand, refusing to let go of control and insisting on life happening exactly as you would like is like swimming upriver. It takes a lot of effort and strain, and most times you end up going nowhere.
Only after learning this truth was I able to turn my life around.
I was only able to get the stability and internal safety I desired when I internalized how to really let go and become more laid back.
And I am here today asking you to do the same: let go of your obsession with control, and embrace a powerful new approach: RADICAL ACCEPTANCE.
When You Embrace Radical Acceptance, It Becomes OK for Reality to Be Imperfect
Radical acceptance is by far the easiest way to get out of the way so the Universe can do its magic.
Because let’s face it, life can throw some curveballs at you and you can’t spend all your time wondering, “Why Me?”
You can’t lose focus on your goals just because your cofounder decided to call it quits when you needed their support the most.
You can’t concentrate on the frustration when that job meeting you planned goes south and your plans got shot.
Because this stuff—and a bunch of other little annoyances—are a part of daily life.
Changes happen. That’s Reality, and It Is Super Dynamic
The last thing you want is to allow the many annoyances of your daily existence to dictate the way you feel about yourself and your surroundings.
Radical acceptance allows you to embrace this fact so you don’t lose yourself. By letting go of your need to control, you gain yourself and the composure you need to manifest the change you desire.
It also does wonders for your health and peace of mind. Imagine what all that worry and stress does to your hormones and your immune system!
When you let go of control and learn to accept life as it comes, you switch your focus to the things which you can control.
Like your vibrations, for example.
Letting go allows relief to come in as you realize, it is okay for life to do what it does. Your job is to do what is in your power and then let go of your own subjective idea of how things should or shouldn’t happen.
From that relieved state, you will easily attract what you want, as you let the Universe take care of business.
Remember, the divine is on your side. It wants you to grow abundantly.
It takes practice. You are not going to change a lifetime of bad habits in a day.
But it gets easier, every time you reflect on your feelings and behavior.
So, set your intentions.
Maintain your high vibrations. Allow yourself to feel safe even without micromanaging everything.
Your sense of safety comes from relaxation, rather than fear of losing control.