Positive affirmations –
Are they even working?
How to use them the correct way
Affirmations are simple, clear and direct declarations that we say to ourselves in order to achieve change in different areas of life. Most people don’t know how to use affirmations and how to say them correctly.
Moreover, they focus on the RESULTS they want to change instead of their limiting beliefs. In this article, I will explain more deeply about those common mistakes and present a better and more effective way to use positive ideas in order to program the subconscious mind.
When we say affirmations out loud or just as thoughts, they don’t go directly to the subconscious mind; they stay at the consciousness level. It takes a whole process before those affirmations replace the old beliefs in the subconscious. Sometimes it takes days, months, or years, and sometimes they never infiltrate into the subconscious level.
Why does it take time? Why doesn’t our brain shift them directly to the subconscious? Our conscious mind uses its experience, its intellect and emotion in order to decide if something is real or not, true or not, fits us or not.
We have fixed patterns that screen the countless information we get and absorb only the data that support our beliefs. If we say or think an affirmation that is completely different from what we have right now in real life, the conscious will reject it right away.
If affirmations don’t really help us make changes in some cases, why bother using them at all?
- They still have some influence when used correctly and constantly and sometimes can cause a real change in life (we’ll learn how – keep on reading).
- Each person has a different resistance level in different fields of life.
- Not all beliefs have the same resistance force.
We mentioned above that focusing on results is useless. Why is that?
Suppose for example that a man is interested in losing weight. He has been overweight most of his life. He knows exactly what to eat and what not to eat in order to make the change. He knows that he needs to start exercising on a regular basis; he knows he needs to be more active and decrease his TV hours. He rationally knows.
In that case, his consciousness didn’t screen this info even though he has contradicting beliefs, because the info on living a healthy lifestyle is everywhere all the time: magazines, commercials, radio, people from work talk about it, friends talk about it, road signs, and society’s role models. It’s everywhere.
He really wants to make a change, and he starts using affirmations every day, affirmations that focus on RESULTS. Affirmations like “I’ am good looking”, “I love the way I look” and etc.
Affirmations that focus on results will not bring us any results. What should you focus at then? The affirmations must be about the way you perceive things, your approach towards the subject you need to change.
His subconscious limiting beliefs might be:
1. “I was overweight all of my life, so why would something change now?”;
2. “I’ve tried before and I failed. I’m a failure”.
He wants to make a change consciously, but he is being blocked subconsciously. It’s very important to distinguish the limiting beliefs we have. If you notice the example, one limiting belief is dealing with this specific problem – being overweight, and the other limiting belief is dealing with being a loser or a failure.
The focus of the affirmations should be about changing the limiting beliefs to empowering and transforming ones. If we take the overweight example with the limiting belief of being a failure – instead of standing in front of the mirror and saying, “I am skinny”, he should say, “I am being consistent with taking action to steadily lose weight”, “I am becoming more and more successful with everything I do”, “’I am becoming successful with my weight loss”.
In order to create affirmations, you must know your weaknesses, what’s stopping you, and your limiting thoughts that are the obstacles. Sometimes you’ll have one limiting belief about a specific issue and sometimes you’ll have various limiting thoughts. How can you tell what kind of limiting belief you have?
The answer is very simple: Check your resistance. The resistances that are popping up in your heads when you consider the option of a change are the limiting beliefs.
Ok, now that we know to focus on changing limiting beliefs instead of changing results –
How do we formulate the affirmations?
How to we build them into sentences?
There are a few rules that you must follow
in order to build good and effective affirmations
1. The affirmations must always be formulated in a positive way. Negative words like “not”, “don’t”, and “haven’t” do not count and the brain does not recognize them. If you say “I am not broke anymore” you made two crucial mistakes – you used the word “not” and the word “broke”. Those are two negative meanings that create a damaging affirmation.
2. The affirmations must be personal, apply to you (but be careful not to be too specific) and simple. Examples: “I become more prosperous each day that goes by”, “The world I live in is abundant”, “Being around people is fun for me”, “Socializing with people feels safe for me”.
3. Use present tense. If you want the changes to apply in the future, you can also say “more and more”, “each and every day”, and “everyday that goes by.”
4. Use words that create positive feelings. Feelings are the wheels of manifestations. Words that are feelings are the “soul” of the sentences. Words of feelings get you into a positive vibe and make you feel better; that stimulates the whole process of the law of attraction and mind changing. Saying words empty of feelings is like saying things with no intention. Examples: “being in a social setting feels fun and safe”, “I feel blessed to have a job I love”, and “losing weight is a tremendous experience”.