Let Go Of The Past Fast These 3 Steps
You will never be able to handle the present and face the future as best as you possibly could, unless you let go of the past.
You already know this, and you worry you will not be able to move on from the past. Because how can you keep looking forward, and be mindful of the present, when you are constantly focused on what lies behind?
At several points in our life, we all go through events or periods that can be described as traumatic. Usually, these occur in childhood. That makes it so much harder to let go of the past because these events become part of our identity.
Here are a few examples:
- Neglect by your parents and guardians.
- Dismissal of your feelings, opinions, and ideas as a child by those around you.
- Overt criticism or punishment that left you scared and shaking whenever your parents came home.
- Never feeling appreciation, affection or love as a child from your caregivers and teachers.
- Constant reminders that you were not a person of value unless you fit into the group and meet “expectations”.
The overwhelming majority of people will go through events like these and never get to fully heal. Even as they transition into adulthood and step out on their own.
Adulthood is not a breeze either. We encounter a lot of suffering there too. You-
- Get bypassed at work despite your effort, and your boss seems to have your misery as her life mission.
- Get hurt one time too often by ‘friends’ who never understand you.
- Struggle to stay afloat in an ever-increasing sea of bills.
- Often end up moving from one unfulfilling relationship to the next, each one seemingly worse than the last.
- Worry about the kids after a certain age when they start acting up and don’t listen to you anymore.
The Importance Of Moving On From the Past
It can be difficult—seemingly impossible—to let go of the past when the hurts still linger.
You may have tried to forgive and forget, do your best to move on from the past wrongs that were done to you, only to find things easier said than done.
You may be even thinking of giving up and allowing yourself to carry the past burden with you forever like a weight around your shoulders.
But here is the thing: not letting go of the past does harm to you in more ways than you can imagine.
If you continue to dwell on the painful memories, the sad episodes, and the anger that is a result of all you went through, over a long period of time, eventually, your body is going to pay for it.
Listen, wallowing on the hurt and refusing to let go of the past over a long period of time will literally start to send stress signals to your body’s regulatory centers, and this will make you sick.
Here’s How This Works
Our painful stories get stored in our system (More on this later). Every time we refuse to release the past, we re-live this story whenever we encounter a situation that leaves us triggered.
Every time we experience something negative, that triggers the emotional injury of our trauma, we create a picture in our mind of that experience – a destructive memory picture, somewhat.
These destructive images create stress in your body. In turn, stress shunts your body into a ‘fight or flight’ mode.
In this hypervigilant physiological state, all your bodily systems are on high alert – just as they would need to be if you were actually in real trouble or mortal danger.
‘Fight or Flight’ is a stress-induced state that is never meant to be maintained for extended periods of time, just enough to escape to safety.
It is an extremely high-stress, high-alert state that is meant solely for life-threatening emergencies.
However, when we maintain this emergency mode for extended periods of time cling to the past memories that have us open to being triggered.
The average individual today stays in ‘fight or flight’ mode for unduly long amounts of time. Not because they want to, but because they are unable to let go of the emotional pains that are causing it.
And There Are Consequences
The prolonged strain causes your body to break down. After a while, stuff starts showing up as symptoms.
Viruses and bacteria which your body should normally be able to handle will begin overtaking you on a regular basis.
Conditions like Chronic Fatigue, Fibromyalgia, Candida, Gastritis, Sibo, Mold toxicity, and other stress-related ailments can become your new normal.
And the saddest part is that when this happens, you would try to remedy this by taking medications that treat the symptoms instead of the real problem which is letting go of the past.
Or in other words – retraining your brain to end the looping trauma.
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Why Getting On With Life Seems Impossible
A lot of what has been discussed so far can be described as preaching to the choir. You already know that your unconscious resistance to letting go of the past is holding you back from happiness and achieving your goals.
So why moving on from the past is so hard for you, even though you know it is hurting you?
There are basically two major reasons why this is the case:
1. Cellular Memory
This is memory stored within the very cells that make up your body.
Up until recently, science had always assumed that the only place where memories were stored was the brain. But that is no longer the prevailing thought. Research has shown that they are also stored in your cells, all over your body.
Everything that has ever happened to you in the past, all sensory data, events, and so on, are encoded and stored in the form of cellular memories. Some of them are negative and destructive events and beliefs that push your body into stress mode when it really shouldn’t.
This happens because cellular memories are encoded in the form of images, and they can cause our body to react inappropriately when triggered.
According to the world-renowned biologist, Dr. Bruce Lipton, a wrong belief “causes us to be afraid when we should not be afraid”.
Therefore, even when we have banished negative experiences from our conscious minds, our cellular data can still cause us to maintain elevated stress levels.
It gets to the point where our immune system is hampered and we begin experiencing several seemingly unrelated problems like anxiety, PTSD, depression, low self-esteem, food intolerances, CIRS, and even cancer.
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This is a cruel reality that many people who have gone through traumatic experiences go through: they rationalize it by blaming it on themselves.
Self-blame is especially pronounced if you experienced trauma as a child.
As innocent as you were in the past, the only way to make sense of any neglect, deprivation, or lack of appreciation was to blame it on yourself. You did it with inaccurate ideas like “I must not be lovable”, “There must be something wrong with me”, and so on.
Your brain was not yet mature enough to grasp the truth that it was not your fault… that that behavior was a result of the perpetrator’s shortcomings and insecurities, remnants of their own toxic programming.
And so we hold on to our past wounds because we feel we are damaged. These awful lies became our truth.
The only way to let go of the negative cycle lies in undoing the toxic beliefs that have built inside your subconscious mind as a result of the past.
Practical Tips To Break Free
You don’t have to be bogged down by the past. You can begin to let go and move on from the past right now. Here are a few ways you can get started:
Own your feelings and acknowledge them
This gives you the freedom to feel your emotions and identify the messages they are trying to convey. However – don’t live in that place for too long because they will pull you down at some point.
Once you complete this step, moving on from the past will get easier. You will be able to make VALIDATING statements like “Of course I feel this sadness. My dad would criticize me to no end, no matter what I did”.
Giving yourself approval for your current state is HUGE because you most likely were never given the validation you needed. You’re giving yourself the opportunity to re-parent your inner child.
Take advantage of Neuroplasticity
Here’s how this works: every time you feel symptoms like depression, panic, fear, or anxiety coming on, quickly divert your thinking to pleasant things.
Think of happier circumstances and stuff that make you feel good. Funny pet videos, happy moments from your past, and so on.
What this exercise does is interrupt the brain to continue its destructive loop. Allowing the loop to continue would dig you deeper and deeper into that unhappy place that your mind is so conditioned to be at.
As you redirecting your attention to pleasant things, this practice interrupts this vicious cycle by informing your brain that you are safe and sound, that everything is okay and there is no reason to be afraid.
This technique works well if you have been acknowledging and owning your emotions for a while and still haven’t seen any positive results.
A surprising tool
Subliminal Messages: I like to refer to this method as a Neuroplasticity exercise, one which empowers you to rewrite your negative conditioning which you developed from the past.
This is one of the most effective ways to let go of the past because it consists in eliminating the very beliefs that cause you to get triggered.
Listening to these audio tracks can train your brain so that you never have to worry about living in the past or being overcome by it.
I created a special “let go of the past” session for this very purpose.
Access this track here.
By using it for as little as 15 minutes every day, you can begin to move on from the past. Watch that new, healthy, and happy you living in the present and looking forward, away from the past.