Discover 2 Types Of Self-Esteem: Which One Is You
Did you know that self-esteem can be divided into several types? Or to be more accurate – two distinctive kinds.
Let’s dive into these self-esteem categories and try to see which type you identify with.
Here’s a hint: it’s most likely the second self-esteem group.
What Are The Different Characteristics of Self-Esteem?
Label A: High self-esteem in its pure form. This means that the experience of feeling valuable doesn’t depend on external factors like the success or failure you’re facing in your life.
People who carry this type of self-esteem have a mindset such as – “I am good enough just as I am, and I deserve to be loved no matter what has happened in the past, is happening now, or will happen in the future.”
It’s realizing that you are worthy just the way you are, regardless of what you’ve done in your life.
With this genre of self-esteem, you believe that you are good enough simply because you exist. It’s this deep internalization that you are a deserving being regardless of your external achievements.
People with high confidence profoundly identify with this type of self-esteem. But those with low self-esteem mostly don’t hold this view. They believe that they are somebody only if they reach something (a goal, objective and etc).
Label B: Acquired self-esteem. This self-esteem is built as time goes by as a result of your successes, gains, and challenges life throws at you.
This is a variable type of self-esteem that is being adapted to whether you have accomplished your desired results or not. For example – feeling good about who you are only if the woman you are interested in is texting you back.
Or feeling horrible, inadequate and unworthy if you experienced rejection – whether it’s at work, with friends or your romantic interactions.
Your Value Is Independent Of Accomplishments
If you’re struggling to disconnect your achievements from your sense of self-worth and self-esteem, let’s explore these ideas for a second:
Consider a baby. Viewed from a performance-oriented perspective, a baby is pretty much… helpless. He or she doesn’t do anything, really.
The baby hasn’t built impressive attainments, made a single dollar, or created anything that can help the world progress. This tiny, adorable creature is totally dependent on the adult to survive and is incapable of functioning on its own.
But does that mean he or she has no value? That she or he’s not precious? Absolutely not.
Or think about your pet. Your furry family member doesn’t have any financial assets to provide. Their life goals simply sum up with petting time, food and sleep. So does that mean your pets are not deserving? Good enough? Or should not be respected?
Why Is It Important To Recognize Your Self-Esteem
It’s very simple: Because no matter how many failures you’ve experienced, you need to realize that you are awesome, just as you are.
You don’t need to gain anything to consider yourself as valuable – you just are. You don’t need to do anything to prove it, to yourself and others.
Sure thing, you CAN continue to expand and evolve in different areas. You can learn new skills and advance in your career to manifest your biggest desires. But regardless of these physical manifestations – you are someone. You are someone even without them.
It’s interesting to observe that many people who have obtained success in life, still suffer from low self-confidence. Despite all their external manifestations, their type-A self-esteem is weak or poorly developed.
If you now understand the distinction between these self-esteem styles, you can view all your life obstacles from a totally different approach. Growing your basic self-esteem and the mentality of “I’m just fine as I am now”, you can better cope with the challenges in your life.
Yes, you might not have learned certain work skills, communications skills or business intelligence. But this information is available to you whenever you wish to access it. And working on the first type can make it much easier and less frightening to access this information.
What Are Your Subconscious Paradigms
Another crucial aspect is to become mindful of the thoughts and beliefs you have within you. People with high self-esteem hold positive and empowering paradigms about themselves and the world, unlike people with low self-esteem.
As you learn to believe you can do anything you desire… that you are capable and adequate – you become unstoppable.
Your life experiences will be richer, colorful, and more joyful. Changing limiting beliefs about yourself is utterly doable. Your brain can be programmed with practice and persistence. You can literally train your brain to shape a strong, rooted, self-esteem.
Subliminal affirmations are an excellent way to establish authentic self-esteem. Here are 4 of my favorite self-esteem recordings:
Self-esteem – Become secure in who you are
You don’t have to be born with high self-esteem. You can work on it and keep on building and improving it, just as you can do with your body. This is the most important gift you can give yourself.
Our brains have the ability to embrace new and healthy self-esteem patterns and conditioning so we can enjoy a much happier and fulfilling life.