You just broke up with your ex; you thought this person was the love of your life. But your dreams are down the drain and you just can’t believe it’s over. And if that’s not hard enough, you also can’t seem to let go of your ex. Even though the relationship had ended, the fixation on your ex has just started.
You feel like this breakup took a part of your body as if your life will never be the same. Letting go of your ex lover seems impossible.
Suddenly the songs on the radio get a different meaning and the world looks completely vague. Kinda colorless.
You feel like nothing is worth anything anymore, if your ex is not with you.
My obsession with my ex
Trust me, I get it. My breakup from my ex was one of the most difficult experiences I had in recent years.
For months after we broke up, my mind had still raced with the same ruminating thoughts that were trying to make sense of what happened.
“If only I would do things differently, then we would still be together with my ex” had flashed in my head every second.
The truth is that it was quite exhausting, all this pointless, intruding chatter. It made the recovery so much harder, needless to say it wasn’t supporting my lame attempts to let go of my ex. It did not change anything, just brought me down. But I just couldn’t control it from hijacking my brain.
After a long period of time of thinking compulsively about my ex… after all the “what if things turned out differently” thoughts and all kinds of imaginary scenarios that ran in my mind, I understood something that helped tremendously to forget about my ex and finally let go of that love story.
How a simple alternative concept has stopped my suffering
It finally came to me while I was running on the treadmill at the gym, and I remember that day as if it was yesterday because that realization has started a serious shift in my life.
This epiphany fundamentally changed my view of this breakup and helped me to let go. Not only did my pain almost ceased right away, but the constant wondering about our relationship made me happy rather than sad.
I know that as soon as you read these lines over and over again and fully internalize this insight I’m about to share with you, it can create a tremendous relief of your misery as well! (Only if you’re ready to let go of that special someone).
And it goes like this –
I realized that all the longing I felt was not necessarily toward my ex.
I simply missed the feelings this relationship sparked in me.
What feelings am I referring to?
Safety, passion, love, stability, caring.
All the time I was suffering, I gave my ex partner the credit for these feelings, but they actually belong to me!
And the fact that we’re not together anymore, does not mean I cannot feel it again, even now, before I’ve found a new relationship.
And that’s why we’re so devastated and afraid to let go after a breakup!
Because we believe that as soon as the ex that we loved is no longer present in our lives, our feelings disappear along with the termination of the relationship.
We’re convinced that if we let go, we’ll also release these feelings from us.
But there is no greater mistake than that.
The truth about the love we feel
The relationship or the ex did not create these emotions. They were always there, hidden within us. The ex partner only revived them.
So as soon as you shatter the false perception of-
“I can experience love and security only if someone else loves me”, you’ll see what an instant relief you’ll feel.
This is just one limiting belief out of many that keep us in the circle of pain! These blockages keep us stuck in all life areas – refusing to let go of relationships, can’t find that career or business opportunities. And until we won’t shift our inner talk, we’ll continue to experience the same lessons.
The truth is, we can feel love, safety, security and happiness on our own. No one else has the sole responsibility for our range of emotions, because this rainbow exists within us.
It may take time for this new point of view to seep into you.
And until that happens, I invite you to check out these two recordings. These can help you soothe your broken heart and leave your ex behind you- whether you have broken up, separated or divorced:
Don’t listen to these recording if you are not willing to let go of your ex, move on and get over your ex. It’s also not meant for you if you just want to speed up the recovery. See, we must process our pain and negativity this separation caused. There’s no way around it.
The programs are designed for you only if sufficient time has passed by and you seem ready to move forward , let go of the needy cycle and finally mend the pieces of your soul.
Are you ready to heal your broken heart, feel worthy of love and finally attract healthy and nurturing relationships? Find out how I did it.