Don’t Be Passive in Your Usage of Subliminal Messages

Listen, I get it: you want a change in your life and you want it yesterday. You’re tired of the same old painful patterns that make up the story of your life: toxic relationships, lonely weekends, soul-crushing debt, paralyzing self-doubt.

If only you could get one magic bullet that would make it all go away in an instant, with no effort required on your part, then that would be awesome. Right?

Too many times in the past, I have received countless emails from all over the world from people who make requests that go like this –

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Why You Never Feel Good Enough

Your life can be so difficult when you walk around burdened with the belief that you have to live up to somebody else’s standards. You walk around with your head down – and why shouldn’t you? You feel you are not good enough. You know it.

If only you were better looking…maybe you wouldn’t feel so small whenever you go out with your friends.

If only you made more money…maybe you would be happier.

If only you could get that promotion…maybe then you would probably be proud of you and you could hold your head high during the next family reunion.

If only…

Can you see where this is going?

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The Root Of Shame

Have you ever wondered why you feel ashamed? Not feeling proud of who you are, afraid to be seen, or tending to be apologetic for almost everything?

I want to explain the root of shame through a case study.

Little Timmy’s Story

Let’s take Timmy, for example. Timmy grew up in a house of an alcoholic father, who physically and emotionally hurt him, and a codependent neglecting mother, who was barely there for Timmy.

She was constantly fearing the frightening side effects of not standing by her husband’s “side.”

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How to Overcome Envy and Stop Feeling Jealous of What Others Have

How to overcome envy

How to overcome envy

I’m sure you’ve felt it… that searing, sick feeling when someone you know – a dear, close friend, a family member, an old rival – gets something you desperately want. You hate when jealousy creeps in, but you can’t bring yourself to overcome envy.

Your best friend just got a promotion and is now earning more money than you. Or maybe it’s something that you just know is trivial, but it still stings – something as frivolous as who gets more likes on social media.

Malcolm X famously said: “Envy blinds men and makes it impossible for them to think clearly.” That, right there, is the problem with trying to overcome envy.

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The One Insight that Will Set You on the Path of Overcoming Childhood Trauma In Adulthood

Overcoming childhood trauma in adulthood

Overcoming childhood trauma in adulthood

Many of us didn’t make it through childhood unscathed. It’s about time we fessed up and admitted the truth—which is that some parts of our childhood were awfully painful and that overcoming childhood trauma in adulthood is absolutely necessary if we want to live peacefully.

The effects in adulthood are hard to miss:

Anger issues, mood swings, depression for no apparent reason, anxieties about every little thing, having low self-esteem, feeling unsafe, being needy, clingy, finding yourself attracted to unavailable partners, or the complete opposite – avoiding intimacy at all costs.

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How To Stop Obsessing Over Your Ex Or Someone You Have A Crush On

How to stop being obsessive over your ex

How to stop being obsessive over your ex

You just broke up with your partner; you thought this person was the love of your life… but now it’s all over. Even though the relationship had ended, the obsessing over your ex have just started.

You feel like this breakup took a part of your body, as if your life will never be the same.

Suddenly the songs on the radio get a different meaning and the whole world looks completely different. Kinda colorless.

You feel like nothing is worth anything anymore, if your ex is not with you.

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How The Need To Be Liked By Others Does Just The Opposite

Need to be liked by others

Need to be liked by others

Let’s talk about the giant pink elephant in the room. We all see it, but too embarrassed to mention it – the need to be liked by others.

This need for others to love us is quite annoying. It takes away a lot of resources and energy. Our artificial attempts to wear masks to win a few points in others are quite exhausting.

In college, when my self-esteem wasn’t very high, I desperately needed people to like me.

I tried to be nice even when I didn’t want to, I gave up my principles; I didn’t set boundaries when it was necessary and in general, I pretty much lost myself.

Yes, in the end I’ve earned the desired goal which was being liked by others. But was it worth it?

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How To Overcome The Destructive Emotion Jealousy

How to overcome jealousy of others

How to overcome jealousy of others

Jealousy is one of the most destructive, lowest emotions we can feel. It decreases our vibrational energy significantly. What can we do to shift our attitude in order to overcome jealousy?

Has it ever happened to you that you followed friends and random people you barley know on social media and felt jealousy creeping up?

You found yourself envious of their relationships… their success… their prestigious vacations… their private parties…

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Fear of Commitment

Fear of commitment

Fear of commitment

Fear of commitment has in internal duality in it. On one hand, you want to find a true connection to someone special. But when it finally happens, you flee the scene as fast as you can.

Here is how commitment issues look like

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How to Stop Worrying

How to stop worrying

How to stop worrying
Chronic worrying is a mental habit you can break. You CAN learn how to stop worrying.

Worrying can be somewhat useful when it drives you to solve a problem and take action. But if you’re constantly dealing with “what if” and worst-case scenarios, worrying becomes a problem of its own.

Dealing with worrying will benefit you greatly in life and is well worth the effort.

You can train your brain to remain calm and collected. Eventually, you’ll get used to looking at life’s challenges with a more positive mindset.

In order to understand how to stop worrying, you first have to let go of the belief that worrying always serves you well.

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